How DID we solve this problem, you ask?
It’s very common and it goes to show how easy it is for us to get stuck in its trap.
And, it goes like this…
I got home from work after a long day of seeing patients and charting in EMR, I needed to DECOMPRESS. As a result, I got home and immediately sat down in front of the T.V. to zone out to NCIS.
Vanessa spent her entire day managing a business, carpooling the kids, then racing home to cook dinner. Cooking dinner was a nightmare for her because she needed help with the kids. I’m sure you know what I mean…the kids hanging off of her while she’s trying to cook. Likewise, she also needed time to decompress after a busy day and needed me to understand that HER day was just as stressful as mine and HER job was just as important too.
She often reminded me, she was walking into her second job at home…cooking and taking care of OUR kids. Therefore, she asked for help, while I listened half-heartedly; meanwhile, staring at the T.V.
I was TIRED and OBLIVIOUS!
As a result, this made Vanessa very angry! I wasn’t helping much with the kids, and Vanessa was sick and tired of feeling like a single parent and feeling UNAPPRECIATED.
- My position: Being a physician is very stressful! Not only are we treating life and death situations with patients at work, but we’re also dealing with third parties nipping at our heels. At the end of the day, I was EXHAUSTED and all I wanted to do was come home and DECOMPRESS.
- Vanessa’s position: I work all day too. Then, come home and walk right into my second job. I don’t have the luxury of propping my feet up and escaping with TV. We have children and with that comes the responsibility of taking care of them by BOTH of us.
We were at an IMPASSE…both of us GRIDLOCKED fighting for our own position. THIS was a daily battle for us, and it was whittling away at our relationship. And, there was lots of suffering in silence. You know, keeping the peace, but at what cost?
Thus, we knew we had to find a solution that worked for BOTH of us! This took COURAGE AND COMMUNICATION and the TOOLS we teach.
I get it!
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